Lives Connect through Friendship

Social media, especially Facebook, has changed the scope of friendship. 

However, I do not believe that the core definition of friend will never change.

My life has been totally enriched because of my friends. I am blessed with friends from childhood to Facebook friends newly acquainted. 

Recently, in the span of seven days, I met face-to-face for the first time with three Facebook friends. All three live out of state. They don’t know each other – but they should. For the past several months during my breast cancer reoccurrence battle, these three along with hundreds of others have frequently prayed for me and encouraged me with their Facebook posts. It would seem that my cancer battle has motivated the development of new and renewed friendships for which I am ever so grateful.

Most of my Facebook friends and the people who have joined the Prayers for Patricia Brown page, I have never met. I might not recognize their face but I see their hearts in their posts. Words especially with pictures tell our story. Actions confirm the truth of our soul. 

One by one I connected with Amy, Robert, and Raymond and they with me. One by one, just days before Christmas, they reached out to me. They wanted to meet me face to face. Like the three wise men, they brought gifts. I liked the gifts but I what I liked most was spending face to face time in conversation with my newest truest friends. Friendship is a gift. 

Merry Christmas to all my friends!

In 1828, it sounds like people were super serious of what they defined as a friend. If we could bring that definition into the Facebook era, the world would be a much better place. However, in the past almost 200 years, the core definition of friend seems to have stayed the same.  

Tick Tock!

Definition of FRIEND

1828 Friend – Defined
1. An attachment to a person, proceeding from intimate acquaintance, and a reciprocation of kind offices, or from a favorable opinion of the amiable and respectable qualities of his mind. Friendship differs from benevolence, which is good will to mankind in general, and from that love which springs from animal appetite. True friendship is a noble and virtuous attachment, springing from a pure source, a respect for worth or amiable qualities. False friendship may subsist between bad men, as between thieves and pirates. This is a temporary attachment springing from interest, and may change in a moment to enmity and rancor.
*There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity.
*There is little friendship in the world.
*The first law of friendship is sincerity.
2. Mutual attachment; intimacy.
*If not in friendship, live at least in peace.
3. Favor; personal kindness.
*His friendships, still a few confined, were always of the middling kind.
4. Friendly aid; help; assistance.
5. Conformity; affinity; correspondence; aptness to unite.
*We know those colors which have a friendship with each other.
*Not common and hardly legitimate.

Modern Day Definition of Friend –  Random House Webster’s College Dictionary
1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: friends of the Boston Symphony.
3. a person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile: Who goes there? Friend or foe?
4. a member of the same nation, party, etc.
5. (cap.) a member of the Society of Friends; Quaker. Category: Religion

"Facebook Friends" – Defined
1. close friends or family with whom you keep in touch with on a regular basis.
2. people with whom you have not interacted with for many years.
3. "Facebook Friends" of "Facebook Friends."

"Facebook Friends" does not mean that either person actually knows each other. In other words, "Facebook Friending" may be just the online equivalent of handing out your business card to a complete stranger.”   Bradley Shear, Lawyer Practicing Social Media, Technology, Advertising, Business, Copyright, Trademark, Privacy, & Sports Law.

Patricia’s Friends:
1. Are present in person and / or in pray during the battles and blessing of life. 
2. Help conquer challenges and celebrate victories. 
3. Have an emotional connection.
4. Allow her to be their friend.
5. Communicate with her.
6. Make her laugh!!